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Being the daughter and granddaughter of pastors, I got sent to a week of church camp every summer instead of a real camp with horses and rivers used for activities other than baptisms.  My mom bought me a package of colorful plastic headbands to take the year that Marilyn and Paula came.

Marilyn and Paula had just started going to church with us. They lived a few houses over from our trailer.  They had a little brother named Clayton, a parakeet that only liked boys, and a mother who could sew.  I remember her once making us all matching coral dresses for Easter, but I couldn’t zip mine.  She studied me for a moment before signaling with hand motions that her daughters’ bodies were made of parallel lines while my body… wasn’t.  She ripped apart the seams and sewed the dress again to accommodate my nine-year-old hips and ass.

Church camp was a week of Sundays and Wednesday nights.  There were small group devotions every morning before breakfast.  There was singing and camp-wide lessons before a strongly enforced quiet time.  There were competitions like finding a Bible verse first or who could drink the most unsweetened Kool-Aid without throwing up.  More camp-wide services.  Swimming involved a tiny pool and a daily lesson in double-standards with t-shirts required over each girl’s one-piece bathing suit while the boys enjoyed the freedom of trunks.

Paula or Marilyn would ask each morning if they could borrow a headband.

Every night it would be handed back to me in pieces.

Someone noticed.

I was packing to leave that last morning when my cabin counselor stopped by my bunk with a bag in her hand.

Inside was a big pink headband with a wide white ribbon gathered across the band and a large pink flower on the side.

It was the prettiest thing I’d ever seen, and I didn’t even like pink.

Green stripe


she had never seen

someone’s eyes see only her

she had never heard

a voice both foreign and home

she had never felt

a touch meant for her alone

she had never said

such things to another soul

she had never known

until this very moment

it could be like this


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125:365 :: Trapped


layer by stony layer

she fashioned alone

a fortress like no other

year by lonely year

she retreats from pain until

joy can not find her

day by numbing day

sanctuary becoming

solitary hell

crack by gleaming crack

she wakes to find hope creeping

crawling across walls

weakened by her growing will

to reveal her truth

layer by stony layer


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And an older piece that fits the latest prompt….

Walking Away

don’t forget to say goodbye

if you walk away

look me in the eye

tell me all the reasons why

when you walk away

be kind and certain

remember it does matter

how you walk away

whatever you do

no fading into nothing

no hiding in the shadows

give me a chance to say

it’s okay

as you walk away

ENTRE COPAS Y AMIGOS, a photo by LAGRAJA on Flickr.


for tonight we drink

and feast on the living joys

celebrating our

ordinary everyday’s

wonders thrills marvels

sharing laughing loving

let us miss not one

no not one



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Out of Reach

Originally uploaded by stephaniedan

I want it all she says

while reaching, reaching, reaching

with one open hand

the other held close

afraid to release what was

doubting what could be

she says I know that

two hands are better than one

but one dream is better than none

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Day Fourty Five

she spirals  in vain

as her mind ever wanders

in search of respite

and relief from her very

ordinary life

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“Read all the time, as widely as you can manage, fiction and non, old and new.  Recogize and avoid distractions.  Write every day; let the language play but be ready to edit.  Find a few readers you trust.  Serious stuff works better along-side humor.  Remember: It’s fun.”

“How I Write”

The Writer November 2009


It was their idea to go canoeing.  I agreed while hiding my surprise at their suggestion.  My two cousins didn’t exactly strike me as the outdoorsy type. When we arrived at the park, he asked somebody where we could find the canoes.  The other night he had told me that he canoed here often.

The park was enormous.  We walked down a winding path over several hills to reach the lake.  Three teen girls were manning the rental station.  Three people. One canoe.  Forty-five minutes.  Plenty of time to circle the lake.  We each donned an orange life jacket and stepped onto our canoe.  She sat in front, saying she wasn’t going to row.  Fine.  He and I shared that larger, back seat.   The three girls handed us our oars and pushed us away from the shore.

The boy had no clue.  As the girls were pushing the canoe, he turned to me and said, “Prima.  You don’t have to row if you don’t want to.  I can do it by myself.”  Shit.   I asked again, “You go canoeing a lot?”  “Yes,” he replied.   Liar.   I explained calmly that he and I needed to row together. Since we were each sitting on a different side of the canoe, it would require both of us to row.

We were already drifting back toward the shore, and I told him he needed to row or we’d hit it.  He responded by dipping the oar halfway into the lake and weakly passing it through the water before turning back to me with a smile on his face.   I had no time  to paddle that smile off his face as we were about to hit land. I quickly turned around and jabbed the oar  into the lake, using it as a rudder to slow and steer us away from the bank.  Forty-three more minutes of this?  Fuck.

After a little prodding and coaching, I managed to get him to row with me.  I compensated for his limp arm by stroking just as softly.  Just one other problem.  I couldn’t get the boy to row more than three times without stopping.

He would weakly stroke once, stroke twice, stroke three times, and then lay the oar across his knees to stare at the sky, the trees, the birds, the water…   I was fuming.  It was a gorgeous day.  I wanted to see it all.  I wanted to feel the wind in my face as the canoe cut through the waves.   Instead, we were just barely creeping along, and I was having to work  to keep us from drifting too close to the banks every time the bastard took another break.

I don’t think we’d made it one hundred yards before I looked at my watch and saw we had twenty minutes left on our rental.  “We need to turn around,” I told him as he was admiring a clump of grass.  “Why, Prima?”  Because you’re a lazy, lying piece of shit whose fucking up something I love to do. I explained that our time was almost up.  “It doesn’t matter.”  “Don’t you have to pay more if you take more time?”  “No.”  Fuck that shit and my idiot cousin.  I turned the canoe around by myself.

He continued his infuriating ritual: creep and sit.  A particularly strong gust pushed us into a pier during one of his breaks.  Resistance was futile.  At this point I think he was sensing my fury, so he stepped up the pace after resting alongside the pier.  Five strokes to one break.   At this point I found it refreshing.

We had one last obstacle when we finally reached the rental station: parking.  The canoes were parked diagonally away from us on the right.  There was only one canoe-sized opening.  My cousin immediately tried to veer right toward the spot.  “Stop.”  I explained to him that we needed to go left a bit, just past the spot, and then circle in order to enter it smoothly.  “Oh, Prima.  You’re so smart.”  Shut the fuck up and row.  “Softer now, ” I told him as we got closer.  “Stop.”  I finished steering us in.

He was right.  One person sitting on one side of the canoe can row alone.

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Someone told me that when tracheal resections are done, it is important to maintain constant neck flexion. This is done by suturing the chin to the chest.

Can you imagine waking up like that? Wouldn’t that make for an interesting story?

My Happiness Project

1. Set a bedtime.
2. Make my bed every morning.
3. Always be reading something.
4. Move more.
5. Toss and organize.
6. Give proofs of love.
7. Leave the past.
8. Fight right.
9. Don't expect praise or appreciation.
10. Kiss more, hug more, touch more.
11. Aim higher.
12. Find some fun.
13. Ask for help.
14. Smile.
15. Realize it's possible.
16. Don't compare;be inspired.
17. Focus on what I have.
18. Beware of drift.
19. Take a chance.
20. Listen.
21. Be mindful.
22. Cultivate gratitude.
23. Spend out.
24. Do good, feel good.
25. Show up.
26. Have the courage to be imperfect.
27. Find joy in the ordinary.
28. Work smart.
29. Enjoy now.
30. Talk to strangers.
31. Go outside.
32. Start where I am.
33. Show up on time.
34. See art everyday.
35. Love with abandon.
36. Be colorful.
37. Dress the part.
38. Revel in accomplishments.
39. Learn something new.
40. Fear less.
41. Take pictures.
42. Speak with integrity.
43. Don't be critical about small things.
44. Manage my pain.
45. Surround myself with creative people.
46. Practice, practice, practice.
47. Don't force it.
48. Deal with something once.
49. Trust my instincts.
50. Avoid gossip.
51. Choose to see the best in people.
52. Take time to be silly.
53. Throw my own party.
54. Be a mentor.
55. Lean into my fears.
56. Find the others.
57. Do the unexpected.
58. Don't break the chain.
59. Do things others aren't.
60. Slow down.
61. Be cool with not being cool.
62. Be kinder than necessary and more generous than reasonable.
63. Pretend I'm good at it.
64. Keep in touch.
65. Row my own canoe.
66. Do what only you can do.
67. If it doesn't work out, find something that does.
68. Dream bigger.
69. Notice what's right.
70. Stop talking. Start doing.
71. When in doubt, choose laughter.
72. Don't let the perfect be the enemy of the good.
73. Respect everyone.
74. Be early.
75. Delete the unnecessary.

Three Simple Rules

1. If you do not GO after what you want, you will never have it.
2. If you do not ASK, the answer will always be no.
3. If you do not MOVE forward, you will always be in the same place.

All I Need

1. Someone to love.
2. Something to do.
3. Something to hope for.

What I’m Reading

Blood Meridian
by Cormac McCarthy
Their Eyes Were Watching God
by Zora Neale Hurston

U.S. States I’ve Visited

New Mexico
North Carolina

Countries I’ve Visited

Bermuda (British territory)

I write about…