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Grow up. Realize he’s not the man he once was. Understand his pain in his past.  Know that he regrets his part in your past.  Determine to not dwell there. See the similarities you share. Recognize your own destructive tendencies.  Stop.  Believe that there is a better future for the two of you.  Create that future. Build a new relationship.  Grow up.

Apologize for my singleness.

To someone so wholly unrelated to my life and happiness.

To someone who didn’t even ask.


My youngest brother recently got engaged.  It was a sweet proposal that included all their family and friends.

Their pastors were included, and the pastor’s wife was talking to my mother when she commented that it must be so exciting.

My mother replies, “Yes.  We skipped the first and the third*, but it’s okay.  The girls are waiting for the right man.”

* Sibling order:  Me, Brother, Sister, Brother. 


Thank you for marginalizing my life and my choices.

I’m not living a full life.  I’m waiting for someone.


Don’t do it again, Mom.

I love to buy books for the kids in my life.  My niece just turned 2 years old, and I sent this book in a birthday package.

I came across it while browsing in Barnes & Noble, and I immediately wanted to buy all the copies just so I’d have them for any future toddler gift needs.  It’s that perfect.

Amazon’s book description: Press the yellow dot on the cover of this book, follow the instructions within, and embark upon a magical journey! Each page of this surprising book instructs the reader to press the dots, shake the pages, tilt the book, and who knows what will happen next! Children and adults alike will giggle with delight as the dots multiply, change direction, and grow in size! Especially remarkable because the adventure occurs on the flat surface of the simple, printed page, this unique picture book about the power of imagination and interactivity will provide read-aloud fun for all ages!

Niece #2 chose Mother’s Day to start making her way into this world.  I’m just waiting for the announcement.


Update:  She’s here!  Now I really need to finish her sweater!

I found out that my brother and sister-in-law are going to have another little girl!*

I can’t wait to meet this little one.



*Or as my mother likes to put it: “So…your younger brother has two kids now….”

I didn’t have much on my tree to start.  A star.  White twinkle lights. Some berry branches circling the tree like tinsel.  Two white wooden bird ornaments.  A nest with three eggs. Three weirdly cute and creepy owls. (I sense a theme coming on in the years to come.) Some generic green, red, and gold glass balls.

My sister and I decided that making ornaments had all the potential for a new family tradition*.  I came across this ** link for cinnamon ornaments.

Three ingredients: cinnamon, applesauce, and glue.  We used white paint as faux icing instead of decorating my house with glitter.

Pretty cute.


*  My sister and I are currently the only ones taking any active role in these new family traditions. That’s ok.  We’ll get them.

**  I would have continued the bird theme, except the only cookie cutters I could find were the classic Christmas ones: star, candy cane, gingerbread man, stocking, etc.

I started wearing glasses in the third grade after my teacher sent home a note to my parents that I was having trouble seeing the board.

My parents gave me a choice between the two cheapest frames.

Option 1:  Clear, chunky frames

Option 2: Clear, chunky frames with rainbow lines running through them.

I chose the first pair with the thought that they’d somehow be less dorky than the second.  If I can get a hold of a picture to scan, you will have the opportunity to judge for yourself.  I might as well have gone for the colors.

I remembered this today because of Cup of Jo‘s link to these glasses.  Even though today’s version are much sleeker and cooler, I could never wear anything like those again.

Not to mention that my parents would feel validated somehow.  “See?!?  I told you they were cool!!!!”

I came across this message my cousin left her little brother.  I don’t know any of the details right now, but I felt the passion of her beautiful words to him.  He’s one lucky guy, even if he doesn’t know it yet.


ay….. [name] que triste que no valore las oportunidades que la vida le da, estudiar no es un castigo, es la forma en que salimos de la ignorancia,
que conocemos posibilidades, que nos acercamos a los sueños, ojalá que esto que paso le sirva para que piense por qué hace las cosas de esa manera.. usted es un niño inteligente, pero si no ejercita su inteligencia no va a descubrir las capacidades que tiene y lo que puede llegar a ser, por mi parte si necesita ayuda digame. Estudiar le sirve a ud, a su vida, yo ya pase por eso y a veces me arrepiento de no haber dado más, por qué se que podía esforzarme más para ser mejor….aproveche todos los días, aprenda algo nuevo, los amigos, jugar salir es bueno pero no lo es todo, hay cosas que se deben hacer con gusto aunque sean dificiles, son las que a uno lo construyen como persona.
Yo lo quiero mucho y quiero que ud sea feliz, que cultive su inteligencia, que sea un buen ser humano , que respete a todo lo que le rodea y luche por lo que piensa, se que no he sido la mejor hermana, pero yo le quiero ayudar, cuénteme hable conmigo , yo he vivido más años y le puedo dar consejos…no olvide que para mis papas esto es muy triste, y que es duro darse cuenta que han fallado en muchas cosas… pienselo.

My brother is expecting his second child.

This little girl or boy is due only days after his first was born.

Impeccable timing, bro.

My Happiness Project

1. Set a bedtime.
2. Make my bed every morning.
3. Always be reading something.
4. Move more.
5. Toss and organize.
6. Give proofs of love.
7. Leave the past.
8. Fight right.
9. Don't expect praise or appreciation.
10. Kiss more, hug more, touch more.
11. Aim higher.
12. Find some fun.
13. Ask for help.
14. Smile.
15. Realize it's possible.
16. Don't compare;be inspired.
17. Focus on what I have.
18. Beware of drift.
19. Take a chance.
20. Listen.
21. Be mindful.
22. Cultivate gratitude.
23. Spend out.
24. Do good, feel good.
25. Show up.
26. Have the courage to be imperfect.
27. Find joy in the ordinary.
28. Work smart.
29. Enjoy now.
30. Talk to strangers.
31. Go outside.
32. Start where I am.
33. Show up on time.
34. See art everyday.
35. Love with abandon.
36. Be colorful.
37. Dress the part.
38. Revel in accomplishments.
39. Learn something new.
40. Fear less.
41. Take pictures.
42. Speak with integrity.
43. Don't be critical about small things.
44. Manage my pain.
45. Surround myself with creative people.
46. Practice, practice, practice.
47. Don't force it.
48. Deal with something once.
49. Trust my instincts.
50. Avoid gossip.
51. Choose to see the best in people.
52. Take time to be silly.
53. Throw my own party.
54. Be a mentor.
55. Lean into my fears.
56. Find the others.
57. Do the unexpected.
58. Don't break the chain.
59. Do things others aren't.
60. Slow down.
61. Be cool with not being cool.
62. Be kinder than necessary and more generous than reasonable.
63. Pretend I'm good at it.
64. Keep in touch.
65. Row my own canoe.
66. Do what only you can do.
67. If it doesn't work out, find something that does.
68. Dream bigger.
69. Notice what's right.
70. Stop talking. Start doing.
71. When in doubt, choose laughter.
72. Don't let the perfect be the enemy of the good.
73. Respect everyone.
74. Be early.
75. Delete the unnecessary.

Three Simple Rules

1. If you do not GO after what you want, you will never have it.
2. If you do not ASK, the answer will always be no.
3. If you do not MOVE forward, you will always be in the same place.

All I Need

1. Someone to love.
2. Something to do.
3. Something to hope for.

What I’m Reading

Blood Meridian
by Cormac McCarthy
Their Eyes Were Watching God
by Zora Neale Hurston

U.S. States I’ve Visited

New Mexico
North Carolina

Countries I’ve Visited

Bermuda (British territory)

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