I forget that sometimes.
Just as I am finding my way to understanding our relationship, he is doing the same.
This past winter was a rough season for him and his relationship with his mother. She was making choices that left him feeling abandoned and unimportant in her life.
On Valentine’s Day, I found candy and a card inside my car from my stepson. Inside the card was written a bittersweet message.
Thank you for being the mother I never had. You make this family complete. Love SS
I cried at reading it. First for feeling encouraged that I was doing right by him. Second for how tragic it was for a 14-year-old to be writing such words when he has a mother alive and well and nearby.
I know that he has a mother. I know that I am not her. I know that what he truly means away from hurt and anger is to thank me for doing the things his mother can’t or won’t do for him. I know that he considers me part of his family. That is enough. It has to be enough for us both.
A few months later he resumed some visitation with his mother. And the next cards from him have reflected a healthier understanding of our relationship.
Thank you for being the best stepmom I could ask for!! Love SS
We’re going to be all right.